Narcissist – 13 Significant signs that you’re dealing with one

NPD

What is NPD you may ask. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is indeed a clinically diagnosed personality disorder characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy towards others. Unlike physical conditions that can be diagnosed through tests, NPD is diagnosed through psychological assessment based on observable behaviours and self-reported experiences.

Psychologists and psychiatrists use various assessment tools, such as inventory questionnaires  and scales, to aid in diagnosing NPD. These tools help evaluate the presence and severity of narcissistic traits and behaviours in individuals. Over decades of study, researchers have validated these instruments to ensure their reliability and accuracy in diagnosing the disorder.

Understanding NPD involves recognizing how these traits manifest in an individual’s thoughts, emotions, and interactions with others. Diagnosis typically involves a comprehensive evaluation by a qualified mental health professional who assesses the individual’s history, behaviours, and psychological functioning to determine if they meet the criteria for NPD.

It’s important to note that while NPD involves distinct behavioural patterns, treatment and management can be complex and often require specialized psychological interventions tailored to the individual’s needs and circumstances.

So, what is a narcissist?

Navigating a relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) can be an incredibly challenging journey. Individuals with NPD often exhibit traits such as a constant need for admiration, arrogance, entitlement, lack of empathy, and a tendency to exploit others.

I experienced the impact of such a relationship, which also involved other disorders. Sadly, it led to significant harm, including brain damage. However, this difficult experience has been a profound lesson in resilience and self-discovery.

It’s important to recognise that while everyone may exhibit some narcissistic traits occasionally, NPD involves a pervasive pattern that can profoundly affect relationships and daily life. Being aware of these traits in someone can help protect your well-being and guide you towards healthier relationships.

Through this journey, I’ve learned firsthand the importance of setting boundaries, seeking support, and prioritising personal growth. Healing from such experiences takes time and effort, but it ultimately empowers you to recognise and cultivate healthy connections in the future.

Stay tuned as I continue to explore topics of resilience, self-care, and navigating relationships on this blog.

How do you know you’re dealing with someone with NPD

These signs help

• Narcissists constantly need attention. They do this by asking you to find things, following you around the house, and constantly saying something to grab your attention. Validation for a narcissist has to come from others.

• A narcissist has to be the best of the best, the most right, and the most competent. They have to do everything their way and control everyone. They love to own everything and attract people with gifts.

• They have no boundaries. They believe that everything belongs to them. They believe everyone thinks and feels the same as they do.

• A narcissist has to have everything perfect. They believe they are perfect, you should be perfect, events should happen exactly as expected, and life should play out precisely as they envision it.

• They will never be responsible unless everything goes their way. They will place the blame and responsibility on someone else. This is to maintain their façade of perfection.

• Narcissists have virtually no ability to empathise with others. They often lack an understanding of the nature of feelings.

• A narcissist sees everything as a threat. They often misread subtle facial expressions and usually interpret facial expressions as negative.

• A narcissist’s personality is split into good and bad parts. Negative thoughts or behaviours are blamed on you or others. But they take credit for everything positive and good.

• A narcissist deals with anxiety by projecting their anxiety onto their closest loved ones. Thus, accusing them of being negative or unsupportive.

• They do not feel much guilt as they always think they are right. They may hide a lot of shame and bury their insecurities, fears, and rejected traits. They are constantly on guard to hide from everyone, including themselves.

• A narcissist can’t truly love or connect emotionally with other people. As they cannot understand feelings.  Their lack of empathy and their constant need for self-protection stops them from truly finding love.

• They don’t have the capacity or the motivation to work as part of a team. They have to control the team.

• A narcissist’s biggest fear is being ridiculed, rejected, or wronged. They often struggle to trust other people.

Causes and takeaway

The exact causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) remain unclear, with theories ranging from genetics and childhood experiences to societal influences and psychological factors. Understanding the origins of narcissistic behaviours is a complex journey that continues to evolve.

If you have a friend who you suspect is being manipulated or controlled by a narcissist, it’s crucial to offer your support. Taking just a few minutes out of your day to be there for them can make a significant difference. Your presence and willingness to listen may be exactly what they need during a challenging time.

For more insights into navigating relationships affected by narcissism, you can explore my other blogs.

Above all, if you feel you are in immediate danger or facing harm in any way, please seek help immediately. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

Please get help ASAP if you think you are in danger.